no demands

Love is to give; not be concerned of just receiving.

Love is not to be rude or self seeking, but rather selfless and conceding.

True love yields its rights and places no demands.

I wish I could say I always lived that way.

Outside our bedroom door is a framed heart. Inside are the words from 1 Corinthians 13. Perhaps, you know it as the ‘love’ chapter.

Early on in our marriage, I would often stop before entering the room and read it. It is on the days I wasn’t feeling it; I needed to pause and slowly read its words before retiring into the bedroom for the evening. The marriage bed should be a place to retreat. There restoration, relaxation, recreation, and release should happen. It is not a place for fights to ensue, arguments continued, or cold shoulders given.

Perhaps, like me, you might just need to stop and repeat a few of the famous words from that chapter over and over and over again: “Love is patient; love is kind.

And this is not just for marriage but in all relationships we should be patient and kind.

Sometimes the holiday season can bring the worst of us out. Don’t let it. Use this time to not have demands but to concede in love in all you do. When you do, you will…

If you need a little more encouragement on how to love with no demands, check out these previous entries posted earlier this year:

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which way is the proper way for the tp roll

If I refill it, it goes to the back.

If my spouse does, it rolls over top.

Which way do you think is the proper way? Please comment below and we can have a tally to see whose a winner, but does it really matter?

I used to think so! I would even switch it or demand it be put on the ‘right’ way. But, is there really a ‘right’ way and is it a battle worth arguing over? I have grown to think not.

The Bible is clear when it tells us to yield our rights. Shouldn’t this always be the case with those closest to us?

If a co-worker is in a tizzy, help them through.

If your sibling is being impatient, be more patient for them.

If a child is having a hard time finding their way, guide them.

These matters are much more important than ‘discussions’ about toilet paper rolls. But, sometimes we make the insignificant more significant instead of dealing with the real issues of life.

Be a chum and help in ways that sometimes may go unspoken, overlooked, or unthanked. Help anyways!

And please, just leave the roll how it is and smile when you see it. Let it remind you that you have someone to share the place you call home with instead of letting petty annoyances rob you of the joy life should bring.

Use this verse as a prayer to God: “Create in me a pure heart, O God, and renew a steadfast spirit within me.” Psalm 51.10

In the end, if we can apply the following I bet that tp roll won’t be so annoying after all and is there really a right or wrong way for it to go? If so, do tell which way is the right way for the tp roll.

Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit. Rather, in humility value others above yourselves, not looking to your own interests but each of you to the interests of the others. In your relationships with one another, have the same mindset as Christ Jesus: Who, being in very nature God, did not consider equality with God something to be used to His own advantage; rather, He made Himself nothing by taking the very nature of a servant, being made in human likeness.” Philippians 2.3-7

When we apply the above, you guessed it…

we will…

Here’s a previous post that has some more thoughts on tp rolls and other thankless jobs:

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real Christians love their neighbours

So often in today’s society, neighbours, even living right next door or in the same complex, don’t know each other. I find that sad and perplexing. We were made for community and yet we don’t find it in the community that is closest to us. It is our duty and obligation to get to know those who are in close proximity in our lives whether that is at home, work, or establishments we frequent often as restaurants, stores, barber shoppes, etc. It is then that we can begin to build a relationship of trust. Once this takes place, when trials come in others’ lives, we can be there for them.

In meantime, you can help bring groceries in for someone elderly or who has a broken limb or better yet, go get the shopping done for them.

How about giving new parents the night off for a date while you care for their little ones?

Visit those recovering from surgery or who no longer can go out.

On warm days when others are outside, don’t just wave or walk by; stop and say hi! That might just be the start of something special.

Know your neighbours well enough to know their dislikes and likes and act on what you know.

What other ideas do you have ?

The bottom line is this: real Christians love their neighbours. We can’t love if we don’t know them intimately. I challenge you to make more of an effort to do so. Get creative and invite them for dinner or start your own NBC.

(See this blog post to know what that means: )

And here is some characteristics of a good neighbour straight from God’s instruction book to us. We should apply them daily:

Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit. Rather, in humility value others above yourselves.” Philippians 2.3

“…be sympathetic, love one another, be compassionate and humble” Mark 12.31b

encourage one another and build each other up” I Thessalonians 5.11

carry each other’s burdens” Galatians 6.2

Keep on loving one another as brothers and sisters. Do not forget to show hospitality to strangers…” Hebrews 13.1

And the key is this:

Love your neighbor as yourself.” Galatians 5.14

Yes, real Christians love their neighbours. When we do, others will see us…

For more tips on being a good neighbour, check out these previous posts:

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