In the south of the United States, there is often a fake facade thick with sweetness covering under tones of rudeness, insincerity, and untruthfulness.
Southern mamas and their daughters are best at this.
What comes across first as southern charm, often really is southern harm.*
Selfishness, self-centeredness, and sabotage reign in the heart of a Southern Belle. Intentional or not, that is what happens when you are around those who want what they want when they want it and do not consider others.
The Bible is very clear how we should yield our rights. And as a Christian, a southerner’s ‘bless your heart’ phrase should never be in your vocabulary because the simple fact that someone might interpret it with a negative connotation means you are not being the light that you were called to be or Christian you say you are.
I have said it before and I will say it again: Feelings saved are always better than being right.
Here’s some previous posts where I said that coined phrase:
Let me say it again: Feelings saved are always better than being right.
Or having your own way.
Or not yielding your rights.
A little sugar can go a long way and I am not referring to the overly sweet southern charm dripping with half truths and insincerity that truly becomes southern harm.
Don’t be fake in your hospitality, be sincere in what you do and say. That is how you can…
“Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting; but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised.” Proverbs 31.30
*In an earlier post this year, I also coined the phrase: southern charm is often southern harm. Check it out to read more about what that includes: https://bethechurch.home.blog/2019/05/26/lessons-from-a-neglected-mother-in-law/
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