Inside jokes are not inside if you let the outside in.
What do I mean by this?
Well, first off, think of those moments you can not recreate but become a bond between two people or a group because they experienced something together. If you try to tell others about it or they want in, it doesn’t really work since they were not there at the moment. Some of these moments can be shared and become an inside thing with more than those that were there initially. But, some things are not meant to be shared and are more meaningful when they remain inside jokes.
However, never let the inside connection hurt the relationships of others outside of that circle.
Yes, it is true an insider understanding can’t always be shared or it can become meaningless when shared with too many. But, be careful to not include others as you never want someone leaving your presence feeling left out.
The Bible tells us not to joke in jest or to deceive others and say we were just kidding (Proverbs 26.19). The Word also tells us to think of others more highly than ourselves (Philippians 2.3). When we adhere to both than others’ feelings can be saved and like I have said before and worth saying again: Feelings saved are always more important than being right. And in this case, keeping the inside jokes away from others might just save their feelings from getting hurt when they are not apart of them.
Now husbands and wives, should have many fun things they share and signs to signal to each other that others should not be aware or let in on.
This goes for the nucleus family and good friends too, but like I said at the beginning: Inside jokes are not inside if you let the outside in. Guard the things that are in your relationships with others well. Have fun but never at the cost of hurting another. And make sure those inside jokes are God-honoring. If not, let them go and move on in righteousness.
you must be careful how you treat all those you meet and greet whether they are in the know about inside jokes or not.
“Like a madman who throws firebrands, arrows, and death is the man who deceives his neighbor and says, ‘I am only joking!'”
“People who shrug off deliberate deceptions, saying, ‘I didn’t mean it, I was only joking,’ Are worse than careless campers who walk away from smoldering campfires.”
“Like a madman who throws Firebrands, arrows, and death, So is the man who deceives his neighbor (acquaintance, friend) And then says, “Was I not joking?””
Proverbs 26:18-19 ESV MSG and AMP
“Do nothing from selfishness or empty conceit [through factional motives, or strife], but with [an attitude of] humility [being neither arrogant nor self-righteous], regard others as more important than yourselves.” Philippians 2:3 AMP
Be the church by being inclusive, accepting, and loving to all in your circle of influence and beyond.
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