it is how you react to the win or loss.
I know the saying is “It is not if you win or lose but how you play the game.” I heard it said whoever said that probably lost. But, the sentiment goes deeper and it hinges on what your reaction is in the end.
There was a period (a long period like 3 years) we didn’t play games with our boys but made them play with themselves until they learned how to be a humble winner and a gracious loser. The youngest enjoyed rubbing it in that she got to play games with us and they couldn’t.
It was interesting to observe their reactions to that and to each other. Sometimes they would blame the other: “If only you didn’t gloat when you won.” Followed by: “If you were not such a poor loser we would be having family game night.” It sure is a learning process and the goal was for the long term lesson to stick.
“Now may the God who gives endurance and encouragement allow you to live in harmony with one another, according to the command of Christ Jesus,” Romans 15:5 HCSB
Sure we could have kept playing and dealt with that attitudes, but it was a life skill they needed to develop.
It was good for them to keep on trying, but a long period to learn the lesson.
Why is it that we take so long to learn some things?
We live in a fallen world.
We are human.
We are selfish.
We don’t want to be told what to do.
It is in our very nature to rebel.
It is taming that nature that takes patience, determination, and time – lots of it. In this case almost 3 years of it!
It really is not about if you win or how you play, but rather how you react to the win or loss.
Be a humble winner and a gracious loser. Give honor where and when it is due and take the loss in stride. For me, the goal of board games was to spend time together not end up in discontent.
Choose this day and purpose in your heart that the person playing the game is more important than the win or loss.
“Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit. Rather, in humility value others above yourselves.” Philippians 2.3
Our reactions show those closest to us if we are acting like Christ. And when we do, we will show others that we certainly desire to…
Feelings saved are always more important than being right or in this case the win or loss. Remember, it is not if you win or lose; it is how you react to that win or loss.
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