can men and women be friends

I know I will get some flack here, but I believe typically friendships with the opposite sex should not flourish. If you are married and have sets of couples you do life with – well, that is another story. But, be forewarned, don’t let a friendship with the opposite sex flourish too much unless you are in the market to get married for if you do temptation may show its ugly head.

And in my opinion, some male/female friendships should not exist. For example, a married man with a single woman or vice versa, marrieds with other marrieds doing things without spouse that is not the wife or husband, and singles you be careful too.

People think when we break up and say: “Let’s be friends” that it will actually happen. No! No! No! Not possible and should not be considered.

As in any relationship, weigh the costs and set up appropriate boundaries. Ask yourself: Is this relationship going to strengthen my relationship with God?

And for the love of Pete, just don’t put yourself in a compromising situation.

Don’t be alone with the opposite sex especially with someone not your spouse or who is married! Meet in public spaces, keep office doors open, and no private texting or emailing. Disclose temptation so you and your spouse or close confidant can battle together. Confessing and being accountable is half the battle! And whatever you do, no complaining about your spouse to another of the opposite sex! That is a big no-no!

Set up those boundaries, clearly communicate, and ask God to be in the center of each and every relationship you share with another human.

Be cautious.

Be clear.

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by choosing God-honoring relationships.

Through this scriptural lens, consider each relationship. I Corinthians 10.23 says: “I have the right to do anything,” you say – but not everything is beneficial. “I have the right to do anything” – but not everything is constructive.” ‭‭

Be careful with all relationships, but especially with those you have with the opposite sex.

Brothers and sisters in Christ, yes! But, friendship with the opposite sex is usually not the best of ideas as the best of intentions can end in regret.

Safeguard your life, your marriage, and all your relationships.

With God at the center of every relationship, you can’t go wrong.

A cord of three strands is not quickly broken.” Ecclesiastes‬ ‭4:12b‬ ‭NIV‬‬

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