had to say goodbye to the squished bug

We bought a car to surprise one of the kids for when they returned home from helping at camp. It was mere days before the upcoming birthday and said child had finally gotten a license the month before on my birthday. A right of passage and sign that says to us our birds – our little chickadees will all be flying from the nest soon even if this license came years after it could have been acquired. (Sidenote: don’t demand or push, let others learn to ‘fly’ in their own time.)

Spouse had just arrived home after a stent away and a few short days later jet lagged and all, we had test driven, did some comparison shopping, and purchased the cutest little VW beetle bug you ever did see.

It was only 5 years old with barely any miles (under 11k) and a fender stereo audio system which was just perfect for this budding musician of ours.

It was also manual. I was thrilled about this as we wanted all our offspring to learn how to drive stick. The older ones had but that car had long since gone to the auto graveyard. So this replacement was awesome and so, so much fun to drive. And …get this…

it was also a convertible!

We joked was the car for the child or was I more thrilled about it as I was giddy like a child about the surprise and getting it?

Needless to say, I was loving driving that car till it’s new owner felt confident driving manual alone. Someone had to ‘sacrifice’ and I was willing to let my car be driven in the meantime to ‘suffer’ with this.

For 6 weeks, we had Sunday drives and took it out for date nights. I took it out for joy rides. The other siblings took it out for date nights too and even on a weekend away trip. We had almost 2,000 miles of fun before I was hit so hard that me and that cute car were bounced a good 10-15 feet back from impact.

I saw the other driver coming but had no time to react or even hit the horn. I barely was able to break before BOOM crash CRASH crash!

Then, there I sat with the bug literally ‘bleeding’ all over the street.

She was a beaut and now, according to the insurance adjuster, a total loss. It sure didn’t look that way to me, but apparently what do I know. Nothing when it comes to that!

1st world problems, yes! But the car was perfect and I was so bummed it was gone in a blink of the eye. Ironically, that day a few short hours later from the accident time was to be the first solo drive for our less than confident manual driver. What was I to do now? Nothing but surrender.

When you find yourself in circumstances out of your control, all you can do is surrender, forgive if necessary, and move on. Try it for peace of mind. It is what I had to do that day.


I really loved driving that car but I had to surrender.

The lady who hit me – well, I had to forgive her.

Now give me a moment of silence for that beaut.

Just kidding.

Instead take that moment to breath some peace into whatever might be the hectic or unexpected part of your day. Getting hit was not in my plan and truly unexpected, but having no passengers was part of God’s plan and a true blessing. A car can be replaced, a life lost can not.

Sometimes God uses material loss to refine us. May our focus never be on things, but rather the love of the Lord to receive and give away.

Sure, I could have said ugly words to that driver who was trying to blame me even though I was minding my own business driving straight as she gunned it out a parking lot trying to cross 4 lanes of a Main Street bustled in traffic. Kindness pays off and will prevail, so let it.

Sure, it was annoying fighting with the insurance adjuster trying to get every cent back, but worth the effort to have the funds to purchase another vehicle. Look for the silver lining and blessings.

Yes, it was exhausting to be back on the car hunt yet again. But, again I could only be grateful knowing the funds were there and no one was seriously injured.

Yes, we had to say goodbye to the squished bug, but God was holding my hand through it all and showing me what is really important this side of heaven. Namely, living a life that brings honor and glory to Him.

And my God will meet all your needs according to the riches of His glory in Christ Jesus. To our God and Father be glory for ever and ever. Amen.” Philippians 4.19-20

Thank you, Lord, for providing the car and its replacement.

So whether you eat or drink or whatever you do, do it all for the glory of God.” I Corinthians 10.31

May I always be an example and bring you glory. I believe I did that day in my calm response with the other driver, police officer, insurance agent, etc.

When we choose bringing glory and honor to God rather than just worrying about our wants and desires, we really can show the world we are difference makers and they in turn will see us…


Life really is more precious than things. Besides, it is only other souls we can take with us to heaven.

Be a difference maker in the lives God has aligned with yours.

And don’t forget: “every good and perfect gift is from above, coming down from the Father of the heavenly lights, who does not change like shifting shadows.” (James 1.17) and if you, then, though you are evil, know how to give good gifts to your children, how much more will your Father in heaven give good gifts to those who ask Him! (Matthew 7.11)

That original bug was way beyond what that child dreamed of, it was a reminder to me of how God lavishes His love on us as we were lavishing our love packaged up neatly in that ‘dream’ car.

The replacement a few months later was similar, but we opted for no convertible this time as truly a passenger could have died or been seriously injured that day had someone been sitting beside me. And besides, a sunroof is low maintenance versus convertible top care. But, again both were more than expected and more lavish.

The ‘new’ used car had more miles and more wear, but it didn’t matter to the new owner because they could drive it with confidence day one as it was an automatic. It was also more practical for around town driving as the diesel tank only needs to be filled every 3 or 4 weeks as it is mostly just driven back and forth to work and short trips around town.

May we always be grateful for lessons and blessings and God’s presence in our lives.

I am so grateful for the time we had with bug 1. Perhaps, I will consider getting a convertible in retirement as I so enjoyed driving that one. My spouse agreed that those 6 weeks of owning it were more exciting for me then its intended owner. We also said God gave us a fun time with a fun car for one summer and the bill was on Him as we basically drove it for free besides gas and insurance costs.

Always look for the blessings, give thanks for them, and be grateful for the loving Father we serve who does lavish His love on us.

See what great love the Father has lavished on us, that we should be called children of God! And that is what we are! The reason the world does not know us is that it did not know Him.” 1 John 3.1

In everything you do and say, help others come to know Him and see Him working in your life. Then they will know Him and hopefully believe in Him as we strive to…


For all the above and more then I shared, it was perfectly okay to have to say good-bye to the squished bug.

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