This year certainly will have its fill of weddings and sadly funerals too. So far, I have attended 4 funerals and missed one when out of town. Today is wedding number 4 with another next month.
To attend a wedding says: I am included, I am a part of an extended community to support the newlyweds, and I matter to those who do the inviting. The opposite is true of a funeral as we don’t get invited but rather just show up.
Yet, attending still says I am included, I am a part of the extended community to offer support, and I mattered to the deceased but also to those left living.
We can be great ministers of encouragement as we offer hope in both scenarios.
Yet, most of us might agree attending another wedding might be a wee bit more easy to do so.
However, that is not always the case. There could be past hurts or broken relationships you stumble upon. There could be people in attendance that have years of heaviness against another. That was the case at my own wedding as my folks hadn’t literally talked in years let alone be in the same room.
I prayed they would be on their best behavior yet I also knew I needed to meet them where they were at – no pushing for group photos or sitting them next to one another.
That can be tricky to navigate but it got me thinking. It is tricky because we humans make life messy. We don’t always follow the plan set out before us nor desire to seek it. We want to do our own thing. I pray this new union I will witness today puts God first and then each other. So often our own sin rooted in selfishness sabotages our ability to function as Christ desires us to.
If you are married and feel your marriage has gone stale or there is nothing left in common:
- revisit your dating days
- take turns planning special evenings together
- rekindle the flame that got the fire burning in the first place
I pray you can stick it out and be a living testimony of faithfulness and love.
(Of course, if you are in an abusive relationship this does not apply. Make sure you and any offspring are safe is the priority.)
Married or not, we all will partake in the wedding feast of the Lord one day.
What are you doing now to secure your place in heaven?
Well, there is nothing you can do except accept the loving grace and forgiveness God offers. And that, my friend, is a precious gift and so needed to transform our lives to be more Christlike.
So, now ask yourself, who am I sharing my faith with so they too can acknowledge the saving grace of Christ?
Everyone of us on planet earth are in need of a Savior.
Everyone of us need His grace, love, and mercy.
Everyone of us have the opportunity to be kingdom bound and kingdom minded.
“Lay up for yourself treasure in heaven…”. Matthew 6.20
The only treasure I know worth storing up is what we do serving the Lord and helping others come to know Him.
Remember: “The Lord is not slow in keeping His promise, as some understand slowness. Instead He is patient with you, not wanting anyone to perish, but everyone to come to repentance.” 2 Peter 3.9
So if you find yourself at another wedding or funeral for that matter, try to be a peacemaker to whomever you find yourself sitting with or conversing with.
Offer hope, peace, and help them see their need of a Savior.
That is how to…
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