Just days after their graduation, our son married his college sweetheart. We switched gears and went into full blown wedding mode.
My prayer as many a parent before has been that they cleave and truly leave the nest clinging on to each other for love, support, and encouragement. That they rely on God first and that nothing or no one here on earth gets in the way of their marriage partnership. And that is what marriage is intended to be – a partnership.
Of course, we as family (hopefully on both sides) are here to support them but decisions and deference need to belong to them together alone now as a couple and a team.
The Bible is clear on this matter and often times as humans we get it wrong. There is so much I wish I knew and needed to know way back when I was young (I would even say dumb) but in love.
Here’s some prudent advice and things I have learned along the way to guide relationships:
Yield your rights.
Compliment each other often especially in public but in private strive to daily.
The old sayings ‘if mama ain’t happy no one is happy’ or ‘happy wife, happy life’ are true but it starts with you whether you are the husband or wife. So, choose joy for the journey.
Complain to your in laws about your spouse not your own parents. (They know their child and may even have some prudent advice. Your parents might not be able to forgive and definitely not forget long after you have forgiven and forgotten.)
To the bride and groom may this adventure called life be more enriched, more enjoyable, more loving because of the ‘I do’s’ said today. May you always feel the love of the Lord first in your head and heart so you can act accordingly towards each other, and may God grant you unity, blessings, and peace in your heart and home no matter where that may be for as long as you both shall live. Amen!
“Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.” Genesis 2:24 KJV
“Therefore what God has joined together let no man put asunder.” Mark 10.9
And singles, strive to find a Godly partner. Don’t settle because time is ticking. It may be better to stay single and serve the Lord more freely then marry someone not fully devoted to the things of the God.
Regardless of what relationship, the above advice can be helpful and the biggest for parents when kids get married, cut those apron strings!
Children are never truly ours. God entrusted them as a gift for us to train in righteousness and then let fly away to the intended purpose He has for them. Let your offspring go off and spring into all God has in store. Cut those strings, I say it again; CUT THOSE STRINGS. In doing so, you help them stand on their own two feet and…
in sickness and in health until death do part.
And parents, cutting the apron strings goes for those single adult children too. Let them live their lives. We are meant to guide not dictate.
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