bless your heart

It is a little phrase people in the southern United States often use. If you didn’t know, it is not always used as a term of endearment or a compliment. Rather, it is often used as a derogatory statement meant to demean another in a “polite” southern way and what they really are often meaning when saying this is: “You are an idiot!”

Well, I don’t know about you, but I hate fake sweet. I would rather have someone who is brutally honest, like someone from an Asian culture can be, rather then someone fake right in front of my face yet pretending they are not.

Recently, I found myself in the southern United States for an event. It actually became one of the lowest times and most difficult days I have ever encountered emotionally. I was in the midst of rejection that I haven’t felt since way back when I was bullied and beat up in the seventh grade four decades ago. How could I keep it together and not retaliate to those so unwelcoming? How could I rise above the disdain and hate? How could I choose to love and have joy regardless of this uncomfortable circumstance?

But God!

Remember, Christ was rejected. So, be honored if rejection comes your way.

“For to this you have been called, because Christ also suffered for you, leaving you an example, so that you might follow in His steps. I Peter 2.21

Satan wants to divide; don’t let him.

Rise above rejection.

Rise above lies.

Rise above the selfish ways of others and take the higher road leaving the lesson of what not to do behind.

And whatever you do, don’t let me ever catch the words: “Bless your heart” coming from your lips.

If they spill out, others won’t see you…

Instead live out each and everyone of the fruit of the Spirit…

“…love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control; against such things there is no law. Galatians 5.22-23


“…let us not love in word or talk but in deed and in truth.

I John 3.18

That is really the only way to bless another’s heart. Live out love and give your heart away.

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