be friendly with everyone but you don’t need to be friends with everyone

I am not sure where I first heard this. I am assuming from a friend. Together we have quite a few sayings like this we have repeated over the years as we sought to raise our children in righteousness. Another is if it is not your story, don’t tell it. We also randomly walk by one of our offspring at home and say things like: don’t do drugs; no sex before marriage; etc. Shock and awe can be a good tactical resource when raising kids that I highly recommend.

But the phrase: “be friendly to everyone but you don’t need to be friends with everyone” is applicable to more than just teaching kids. I think it is prudent advice all of us can apply in the workplace, in a school setting, in our neighborhoods, even in church.

This expression is good to remind us all to stay out of drama and stay in our own lanes.

I also think it is wise not to make friends with others too quickly. Take time to observe first. If you go all in, it may be hard to back track because in real life it is much harder to defriend someone unlike on social media.

I had this happen to me in college week one freshman year I became friends with another who had similar name and ethnic background. Week two I realized this person was possessive, one friend only minded, and hard to separate from so I could not branch out to make a bigger circle. So take this prudent advice – be friendly but wait to become code friends until time has shown you character.

Don’t take my word or idioms on friendship. Look into THE Word to find how to live and conduct yourself. That is how to…

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Listen to advice and accept discipline, and at the end you will be counted among the wise. Proverbs 19.20

Do not make friends with a hot-tempered person, do not associate with one easily angered, or you may learn their ways and get yourself ensnared. Proverbs 22.24-25

“Do not be misled: ‘Bad company corrupts good character.'” I Corinthians 15.33

“Walk with the wise and become wise, for a companion of fools suffers harm. Proverbs 13.20

“One who has unreliable friends soon comes to ruin, but there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother. Proverbs 18.24

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