It is all about timing and how we communicate.
My intentions especially for the offspring God has blessed us with are always for good. Yet, sometimes my unasked for opinion can ruin what I am trying to say or even make another feel less than.
My mother always said: “If you don’t have anything nice to say; don’t say it at all.” And it is not that what I have to say isn’t nice but rather how I say it that can be perceived as not nice. Oui vey! Will I ever learn to just keep my mouth shut? Or at least soften the tone?
And isn’t that what the month of “love” should be all about? Using our tongue to encourage and love rather than put down or discourage.
The Bible has lots to say on this. Let’s ponder a few verses about our old tongue that can’t be tamed so we can be better at communicating especially with the ones closest to us.
“Life and death are in the power of the tongue. “ Proverbs 18.21
“Keep your lips from speaking evil and your tongue from telling lies.” Psalm 34.13
“A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.” Proverbs 15.1
“Let your conversations be always full of grace, seasoned with salt, so that you may know how to answer everyone.” Colossians 4.6
“Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen.” Ephesians 4.29
“The soothing tongue is a tree of life, but a perverse tongue crushes the spirit.” Proverbs 15.4
“Sin is not ended by multiplying words, but the prudent hold their tongues.” Proverbs 10.19
“Whoever would foster love covers over an offense, but whoever repeats the matter separates close friends.” Proverbs 17.9
“What goes into someone’s mouth does not defile them, but what comes out of their mouth, that is what defiles them.” Matthew 15.11
“Those who guard their mouths and their tongues keep themselves from calamity.” Proverbs 21.23
“Without wood a fire goes out; without a gossip a quarrel dies down.” Proverbs 26.20
Lastly, use this verse as a prayer: “Set a guard over my mouth, LORD; keep watch over the door of my lips.” Psalm 141.3
As we apply all the above we will better to…
to all we come in contact and communicate with.
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